Every relationship has uncertainties. Many relationships even carry red flags associated with those uncertainties. Complicated issues and unknowns are best addressed before or early into marriage so that they can be understood in the context of your relationship. Coaching can help with this process as you bring concerns and worries to the surface and prevent the from growing and interrupting the relationship that you desire. Many times, not addressing a problem makes the problem bigger. Addressing it can help to find a mutual understanding and plan for some of the more complex dynamics that every relationship encounters. 

Whether you and your partner have clarity or uncertainty, the decision to divorce is a large and important one. Engaging a legally and therapeutically trained coach can help mitigate some of the uncertainties associated with the process. By envisioning the restructuring of your family while you contemplate the decision, you gain more control and power. This can support you, with or without your partner, to structure your divorce in a way that addresses your needs, your family’s needs and specifically the needs of your children. 

Divorce is the end of one type of relationship and the beginning of another. This transition can include grief, anger, confusion, fear and a whole list of other emotions. It can also be an opportunity to disengage from patterns that did not work in marriage while you create new boundaries and expectations for life after marriage. This can me simple changes in the way you function, or a deep dive into the damage that your marriage may have done to your emotional stability. Whatever your emotional needs are, Carrie can help you understand them in the context of divorce, healing and building the next chapter of your life. 

Technically, divorce is a legal process that culminates in the dissolution of a marriage. Specific decisions regarding finances and family are required in order to meet the legal obligations for a divorce. Carrie can help you understand and prepare for those decisions so that you can be thoughtful, prepared and in control. Coaching with Carrie will allow you to seek legal divorce, through a lawyer or otherwise, with a readiness and  understanding that can save substantial money and help to mitigate anxieties associated with the unknown. 

The process of divorce does not end when you are legally divorced. When you share children you are a connected family for a lifetime. For some parents, this may mean coaching for a better relationship as families evolve and grow. For others, high conflict and other issues make the coparenting relationship challenged for parents and children alike.  Coaching can help coparents or an individual parent create boundaries, recognize and be prepared for repetitive patterns, and generally regain control of your life in this complex dynamic

The aftermath of divorce can also involve new relationships and blended families. Guidance and coaching can help increase relationship success by creating thoughtful approaches to blending two families with cohesion and clarity. Managing expectations and understanding each person’s role and desires can help you to be proactive in your new blended family and avoid some of the challenges that come when decisions are after the fact and more reactive. 

Coaching at this important phase in your life provides an opportunity for you to claim or reclaim your identity. It can also help to explore relationship patterns and susceptibilities so that you can enter the dating world with confidence and success. Understanding yourself, your identity, your purpose and your goals are impactful as a newly single person, and as a single parent with the opportunity to model and create a legacy that supports the potential of your children. 

If you are a divorce professional, your clients often want guidance and support in areas that are outside of your expertise. As lawyers, mental health practitioners,  financial planners, or real estate professionals, clients will come to you for many of their needs. Coaching with Carrie can help you gain a broader understanding of your client’s needs, set boundaries that support mutual understanding of your role, and help with basic resources to guide your clients in the direction of effective support.